Memorize This Phrase “My Child Would Do Better if He/She Could:” Day 5 Transcript

Welcome back to the Differently Wired 7-Day Challenge! I hope you were able to find a bright spot yesterday…maybe even more than one! Today’s TILT is super straightforward. 

Today I’m going to ask you to internalize this phrase: My child would do better if he/she/they could. 

This little 8-word phrase, which is adapted from Dr. Ross Greene’s belief that “Kids do well if they can,” instantly shifts the meaning behind pretty much everything your child does that feels hard and difficult.

I know many of us believe that our child could make a better choice if they really tried. Or we might think our child’s behavior choices are purposefully manipulative, or that their actions were designed to make our life harder. 

That’s why this Tilt can be so powerfully. Because when we embrace and commit to the meaning behind this phrase — My child would do better if he/she/they could  — we remind ourselves that a) this isn’t about us, and b) they are lacking the skills necessary to do anything different right now. 


Your Challenge

Commit this phrase — my child would do better if he/she/they could — to memory. Perhaps write it down somewhere. And when you find yourself feeling annoyed with your child, recall this phrase, take it to heart, and notice how quickly your thinking can shift. That’s all for today! We only have two more days left in the challenge… I hope you are noticing subtle changes in the way you’re feeling. See you tomorrow!


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